Comments on: Wannabes & Jigaboos

By: Girl

Girl — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 02:11:04 +0000

Good writing! Something to think about..

By: theHotness

theHotness — Wed, 26 May 2010 17:39:19 +0000

@EVERYONE: THANK YOU so very much for the compliments and the love for my blogging!!! It never fails to make me feel better.

@Bilqis: Great points. All of of perceptions and mis-perceptions begin at home. We are taught, however subliminally, to love and hate ourselves. My best friend growing up was bi-racial. I honestly never saw her as better than me. I liked her hair until one day I tried to come through the thick tangly curly heap and realized that ish was even more complicated than my kinky curly ponytails. We both suffered discrimination. Me from the boys in my elementary school and she, initially, from her birth mother. It’s tough for all Black girls and loving ourselves and each other is surely the beginning to ease that pain.

@Julia: That was an interesting article!

@Karen: Wow,my friend wrote about that for theHotness some years ago. A great article that I will forward to you. Stereotypical on some many levels!

By: Karen

Karen — Tue, 25 May 2010 02:05:47 +0000

Bravo Nic. As a dark kinky haired sister I gave birth to a light wavey haired child and am always mistaken for her nanny. It’s crazy to me the feelings that this has brought up in me. I do find their reactions funny though after they find out I’m her mom.

By: Julia C.

Julia C. — Thu, 20 May 2010 19:23:08 +0000

Funny, your spot-on post comes on the heels of me viewing “When Big Lips Don’t Work.”

http://jezebel.com/5536301/when-big-lips-dont-work-the-struggles-of-a-black-model

I guess addressing colorism’s is the air. Keep it up.

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Thu, 20 May 2010 18:06:37 +0000

Good one!!!

Peace, Love and Chocolate
Tiffany

By: Bilqis

Bilqis — Thu, 20 May 2010 16:50:44 +0000

Wannabe President & Jiggaboo First lady is priceless!! LMAO Nic!! It’s sad but true that our people still have this hang-up. I was blessed to have a family that thought I was beautiful and had me gassed up thinking the same thing without any care or concern for color. Even though my grandmother would say crazy crap like when you date, date lighter to brighten up your race! (Mind you she’s a little wannabe who married a jiggaboo making a rainbow spectrum of offspring!!) I still managed to be okay with my get down honey brown complexion. Unfortunately that changed up somewhere around puberty when I started noticing boys and noticing they seemed to notice my light-skinned good haired sisters more than me. It made me question my beauty and struggle for a long hard minute. I even adopted my own version by preferring to date light skinned men because they seemed to appreciate my shade a little more than darker brothers. I’ve since grown and got back to loving who I am but I’ll have to admit there is still an underlying current that still gets sparked every now and then. I’d honestly say that the only thing that keeps me from having real issues with it is that I have so many amazing light skinned women in my life that I love with all my heart for the spirit of who they are as people. I can also see their beauty without it being a threat to my own. I’ve also seen that they have their own struggles to with not being seen as black enough or wondering who’s digging them for who they are or just what they look like. We all got our issues.

By: sharon

sharon — Thu, 20 May 2010 14:57:00 +0000

great post, nicole!

By: MML

MML — Thu, 20 May 2010 14:08:56 +0000

keep writin! your voice is so f’kn on! sharper & sharper…