December 23, 2010

Lifestyle, Real Talk

Holiday Hotness: Who’s Your Santa, Baby?

Whether you’re naughty or nice, a youngin’ bah-humbugin’, or an older head singin Fa-La-La’s, we all want and like getting gifts. Don’t front! Yeah giving feels just as good as receiving, but dang getting a present, especially when it’s least expected is the shiznit! The wondrous beauty of being a child is their honest naivete. Remember those long, detailed Christmas Lists we used to write asking Santa Claus for all our hearts’ desires—an Easy Bake Read more...

December 7, 2010

Real Talk

Felt Up, But Not Fed-up?!

Last Monday morning Nicki Minaj was on “Live! With Regis & Kelly” promoting her new CD “Pink Friday.” Nicki performed “Right Thru Me” and was doing her post-talk Q&A with Regis Philbin and Kelly Ripa when Reg seemingly mesmerized by Naj’s badunka-dunk exclaimed, “I love the way you dress. This looks like you’ve got a little strap around you there.” Then outta no where he touches her dress and then slapped Nicki on her backside. Read more...

December 1, 2010

Lifestyle, Real Talk

World AIDS Day – Hydeia Broadbent

In 2001 I flew to Los Angeles to meet and interview the award-winning, community mobilizing, youth educating AIDS activist Hydeia Broadbent. She was 17 then and now at 26, Hydeia is still traveling the globe talking about her experiences living with AIDS and about practicing safe sex. I recently caught up with the ever stylish, forever tweeting Gemini at a Black Girls Rock media reception. She was featured in the BET telecast and spoke Read more...

November 19, 2010

Best Of, Real Talk

3 Life Lessons from Dancing With The Stars

After Tuesday night’s shocking results on “Dancing With The Stars” where top-scoring Brandy and her partner Maks got the boot, folks all across America have been going berserk. One man in Wisconsin even shot his television and pointed the gun at his wife in a state of rage. Personally, I was over DWTS years ago when Mel B. lost. Homegirl was doing splits, executed the fox trot like a pro and twirled around like she Read more...

October 26, 2010

Best Of, Lifestyle, Real Talk

Being Fierce vs. Being a Beeyotch

When did women start feeling like they had to be a mean girl or a bitch in order to get respect, in order to feel fierce? No doubt I’ve worked with and have encountered many successful beeyotches in my time, but the overwhelming majority of fierce sisters I know are generous, relatable, secure, approachable, and genuinely nice. Yeah, these women have their doubts, but they choose to dip their spirit in a pool of confidence. Read more...

October 12, 2010

Art, Hot Grrrls, Real Talk

MFON: Breast Cancer Fighter


I’ve written about photographer and activist Mfon Essien several times since I first interviewed her back in the fall of 2000. I hung out with her for most of that lovely afternoon in her living room. She was battling breast cancer, but that day there were very few signs of struggle or even weakness. We laughed, sipped tea and talked about what it meant to be sexy. For two young Black women this chat Read more...

October 1, 2010

Best Of, Real Talk

How Daddy Made Me a Fly Woman

Last weekend while standing in the condiments aisle of Marshall’s looking for an awesome ginger chile sauce, I bumped into an old friend. Eyes kinda puffy, she had been crying. She just lost her dad like a month ago and just found out while looking for a glass canister that her homegrrrl’s father just passed away too. I told her what I knew firsthand: Be gentle with yourself, grieve when you want and know that Read more...

September 24, 2010

Lifestyle, Real Talk

Rebooting Life L-Boogie Stylie

Whoa Nelly, my one-week break from this here cipher turned into six just like that! At the outset I knew I needed a break. Blogging, social networking and the whole idea and notion of being theHotness is a non-stop grind. I have to be online everyday from the minute I step out of bed to the minute I tuck myself back in at night. I have to be in the mix for what seems like Read more...

August 5, 2010

Best Of, Lifestyle, Pad, Real Talk

Drill Baby, Drill!

All this talk about drilling really has me thinking about one of the items on my Bucket List:

· Learn how to use a drill to absolute perfection.

You see my Bucket List isn’t a summary of things I want to do before I die, but rather it’s a compilation of things I want and need to learn, and here’s the best part, while I am still single. Not to say marriage is akin to Read more...

July 29, 2010

Real Talk

Essence Mag Hires A White Fashion Director

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Last Wednesday morn lovely styleaholic Najwa tweeted: “Just heard some very disturbing news about Essence magazine.” I tweeted back: “Did they fold?” Never got a response because I forgot to type the friggin “@” symbol. Then on Sunday I saw this Facebook update by cultural critic & former Essence Fashion Editor Michaela angela Davis: “It is with a heavy heavy heart I have learned that Essence magazine…,” okay by now I’m thinking, ‘Oh God, Susan Read more...