February 27, 2013

Real Talk

Black Girls Deserve So Much More

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“I speak here as a woman of Color who is not bent upon destruction, but upon survival. No woman is responsible for altering the psyche of her oppressor, even when that psyche is embodied in another woman.” –Audre Lorde

“The way I feel about life? It’s a struggle. You have to stop getting mad and get smart.” – Mamie Lee Melton Nichols

Sunday night as the Oscar’s came to a close someone at The Onion Read more…

February 6, 2013

Real Talk

Is Your Half-Time Show As Good As Beyonce’s?

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On Sunday I was transfixed like pretty much everyone else on the planet by Beyoncé’s half-time show. I was already amped because my team had run a clinic on the 49ers in the first half and was screwing up spreads across the land. Now I was ready for King Bey to rock that mutha.

Hot off the heels of a lip synch controversy so huge it damn near made Milli Vanilli’s debacle seem like a Read more…

January 17, 2013

First Lady

Happy Birthday First Lady Michelle Obama!

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While I’m working on other projects and can’t blog as much as I’d like, I’m happy that so many of my most favorite women are Capricorns, giving me the opportunity to give quick shout-outs of birthday love. Yesterday was Sade’s birthday and it also would’ve been Aaliyah’s 34th, God rest her soul.

Today is none other than our First Lady Michelle Obama’s 49th birthday! She set the celebration off with a social media bang this Read more…

January 16, 2013

Grooves

Happy 54th Birthday Sade!

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Today is Helen Folasade Adu’s Birthday! She’s an incredible 54-years old today! Clearly, legends stay beautiful! As one of our most dynamic, sultry and sweetest soul singers, theHotness wishes her continued success and love. And thanks for putting us big foreheaded sisters squarely and magnificently on the map of beauty.

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“Artistically, I have high aspirations. I don’t want to do anything less than the best I can do. I’m not trying to promote an image.” Read more…

January 9, 2013

theHigh-5

5 Great Books To Start The New Year

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1. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

The subtitle on the book cover reads: “A Fable about Following Your Dreams,” which, having read this book twice in the past 11 years and been emotionally transformed and spiritually revitalized both times, this subtitle does not do Coelho’s book justice. More than an Aesop tale, this fable is not kid’s stuff, it’s grown folk reading that will take you on a journey with Santiago, the shepherd, as he Read more…

January 2, 2013

Real Talk

Making Peace with Mamacita & Welcoming 2013!

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2012 stunned me at times into bouts of tears and into moments of silence. 2012 also amazed, leaving me overjoyed and lightheaded from breathless laughter. This was a year of losing and gaining: friends, gigs, lovers, Spirit, ego, confidence, fear and fortitude. At my lowest I found strength and resilience. They were actually waiting for me. The more I peeled back the doubts and let go of the “Why Me’s,” the more I loved even Read more…

December 25, 2012

Real Talk

Happy Holidays!

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Yay, I got an iPhone this Christmas! Thanks mommy! And thank you all so much for reading and supporting theHotness. I hope you all have a wonderful time with family and friends this Christmas!  I wish you health, happiness and hotness!

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December 21, 2012

Real Talk

No Doomsday But New Heights & Gold Boots Too

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This is a picture of me climbing the High Temple of Lamanai (a former Mayan city that dates back to 950AD) in Belize a few years ago. While there I saw artifacts that substantiated the claim that Dec. 21, 2012 would be the last day of time. Initially it freaked me out. The end of life… of all life forever?! But then I spoke to some folks living there of Mayan ancestry– Los Mestizos as Read more…

December 16, 2012

Real Talk

When Children Die

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“I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent.”
― Mahatma Gandhi, The Essential Gandhi

I was going to blog about the politics of Black hair on Friday, but when 20 young children are shot dead you have to pull back and readjust to what’s really relevant. Whenever a child dies I feel like the earth stands still and gets a little

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December 7, 2012

The Goods

#ShopSis: Emily Jayne Butters & Fragrances

For quite some time I’ve had this idea to highlight my favorite products especially the ones made by women because I really respect the risk-taking courage, smarts and stamina it takes to be an entrepreneur. I feel more and more that we as a community do not celebrate our small business entrepreneurs the way we should. With the big box business boom of Starbucks, WalMart and H&M, I’ve seen so many of my favorite small Read more…