February 28, 2014

Real Talk

Trust A Big Butt & Never Mind The Smile

STWTS

“Hey beautiful, come on, smile.”
“Aww baby, smile, it can’t be that bad.”

I don’t know you. I’m not your baby. And yes, homey, it is that bad! I can’t tell you how often I have to deal with some man telling me to smile. Seriously Chanel Iman is asked to smile less and she’s in the business of smiling. It’s not cool. It’s not friendly banter (you’d need to be my friend for that) Read more…

November 29, 2012

Real Talk

Beauty, Booty & Beyonce: Loving My Black Body

Over the weekend Beyonce posted the note you see above on her Tumblr page and immediately her Beyhive started swarming. Without realizing or even considering that this may not even be a direct quote from Baby Blue’s momma, folks were in a hizzy over the first sentence. The idea that Beyonce would think, never mind write, that she was ugly had folks scratching their head, hypothesizing all kinds of scenarios. Most bloggers thought this letter Read more…

November 11, 2011

Real Talk

Under Construction & Over The B.S.

holstee_manifesto

A lil’ over a month ago I realized this website wasn’t the only thing in need of an overhaul. My plug-ins needed to be refreshed and so did my attitude. I wasn’t depressed or going through a mid-life crisis, but something was certainly glitchy. Like my site, design wasn’t a major issue. I felt like I was looking flyer than ever— I had lost nine pounds and it showed, my hair still had that summer Read more…