January 10, 2014

Real Talk

Blood, Sweat and Crap

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“When we fill our schedules with appointments and hands with phones, we divest ourselves of downtime. When we’re endlessly doing, it’s hard to be mindful of what we’re doing.” —Janet Choi

Thanks to Hercules, Mother Nature and homeboy Jack Frost, 2014’s arrival has been a frosty affair of brisk body slams and chilled to the bone shivers. As much as I wanted to get this new year started off in a blaze of unfettered Can’t Read more...

December 17, 2013

Real Talk

I’m On The Katie Show (Part 2)

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The two questions seemingly on everyone’s mind these days: What do I think of Beyonce’s new CD? And what has happened since my appearance on Katie? I think Bey’s new album is a game-changer. How it was released, the quirky frenzied haunting music and its inextricable connection to video and image, the look and feel of sensuality, sexuality and pleasure through a young Black married woman’s eyes… yep, game changing!

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November 11, 2013

Real Talk, TV/Film

I’m On The Katie Show! (Part I)

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Please check me out every day this week on the Katie Show (ABC @3pm). I was selected to be one of three women discussing the challenges of finding my ideal job in this shaky, shut-downed economy and Katie Couric has set out to help me get this cool gig in a new segment called “Katie’s Classifieds.” Unbeknownst to me, I was referred for this series and the producers selected me the night before they started Read more...

October 21, 2013

Real Talk

EVENT: What is Solidarity for Women of Color?

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When the hashtag #solidarityisforwhitewomen was created this past summer it caused an uproar on Twitter, with Women of Color questioning what their position is within the feminist movement.  On Tuesday, October 22nd, NOW-NYC (National Organization for Women) will host a conversation that will explore how Women of Color feminists navigate their experiences within a society where solidarity has been commonly defined by white women. We will discuss recent developments within the feminist movement as it Read more...

October 4, 2013

Real Talk

Miriam Carey, Gladiators & The Mentally Ill

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Real life is stranger than fiction. Olivia Pope seems to have the answers to it all. Just when you think she is down and out she rises again to face another day without so much as a smudge on her white trench coat. But in Washington, D.C. yesterday Miriam Carey was shot several times by police and she will never see another day. Reports that she suffered from post-partum depression, which in many circles, especially Read more...

September 17, 2013

Real Talk

Stop Playing & Get Your Life! Why I Had To Do Me

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Growing up I used to hear folks say, I have to get right with God. Well about a month ago I realized I had to get right with myself and being that I believe God lives in me, it made immediate sense. I wasn’t feeling very “social.” I was beginning to dread going on Facebook. The process felt more mechanical than experiential. I was going through the motions because I felt I had too. Even Read more...

August 29, 2013

Real Talk

Poof… I’m Outta Here!

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You can call it #OperationUNPLUG or #OperationBITCHESBREW, either way you hashtag it, I’m outta here and on a mission. Not for good, but as you probably have already noticed I’ve taken August off from blogging. My sabbatical was impromptu, but right on time and so necessary. I was running on “E” and thought I could make it to the end of August, but there I was smack dab at the end of July and Read more...

July 29, 2013

Real Talk

Living Single,Dying Alone: Our (Un)Social Network

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Beautiful, young, intelligent, well-off, adored, alone in her UK studio, dead, rotting on the couch for three years with the BBC still playing on the tube.  Three years went by and no one missed free-spirited Joyce Carol Vincent.  She wasn’t even 40, but she had met Nelson Mandela, partied with Jimmy Cliff and dined with Stevie Wonder yet, for someone so socially active, not one person– not even her sister, missed her for over 1,000 Read more...

July 15, 2013

Real Talk

Hope, Rage & Breath: Time To Trouble The Water

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“It is the Zimmerman mindset that must be found guilty—far more than the man himself. It is a mindset that views black men and boys as nothing but a threat, good for nothing, up to no good no matter who they are or what they are doing. It is the Zimmerman mindset that has birthed a penal system unprecedented in world history, and relegated millions to a permanent undercaste. Trayvon, you will not be forgotten.

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July 3, 2013

Real Talk

Being An Awkward Hot Grrrl: A Day in the Life

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Did you watch Ava Duvernay’s Venus Vs. last night on ESPN? I was most blown away by Venus’s confidence. 23 years old, 6’1″ and those white and green beads and those long, gangly legs. When she said, “I’m tall, I’m Black and everything is different about me and those are the facts,” I knew EXACTLY where she was coming from and EXACTLY where she was heading. She was on the precipice of not giving a Read more...