January 2, 2013

Real Talk

Making Peace with Mamacita & Welcoming 2013!

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2012 stunned me at times into bouts of tears and into moments of silence. 2012 also amazed, leaving me overjoyed and lightheaded from breathless laughter. This was a year of losing and gaining: friends, gigs, lovers, Spirit, ego, confidence, fear and fortitude. At my lowest I found strength and resilience. They were actually waiting for me. The more I peeled back the doubts and let go of the “Why Me’s,” the more I loved even Read more…

December 25, 2012

Real Talk

Happy Holidays!

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Yay, I got an iPhone this Christmas! Thanks mommy! And thank you all so much for reading and supporting theHotness. I hope you all have a wonderful time with family and friends this Christmas!  I wish you health, happiness and hotness!

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December 21, 2012

Real Talk

No Doomsday But New Heights & Gold Boots Too

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This is a picture of me climbing the High Temple of Lamanai (a former Mayan city that dates back to 950AD) in Belize a few years ago. While there I saw artifacts that substantiated the claim that Dec. 21, 2012 would be the last day of time. Initially it freaked me out. The end of life… of all life forever?! But then I spoke to some folks living there of Mayan ancestry– Los Mestizos as Read more…

December 16, 2012

Real Talk

When Children Die

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“I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent.”
― Mahatma Gandhi, The Essential Gandhi

I was going to blog about the politics of Black hair on Friday, but when 20 young children are shot dead you have to pull back and readjust to what’s really relevant. Whenever a child dies I feel like the earth stands still and gets a little

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December 5, 2012

Real Talk

The Truth About Susan Rice

If you watched Barack Obama’s first official press conference after winning his re-election bid then you saw the President go ballistic when asked about the Republican’s response to U.N. Ambassador Susan Rice’s possible nomination for Secretary of State. To summarize, our Prezy said that anyone who has a problem with Ambassador Rice will have a problem with him. End scene! I feel Obama because the attack on Susan Rice is not only largely unfounded, but Read more…

November 29, 2012

Real Talk

Beauty, Booty & Beyonce: Loving My Black Body

Over the weekend Beyonce posted the note you see above on her Tumblr page and immediately her Beyhive started swarming. Without realizing or even considering that this may not even be a direct quote from Baby Blue’s momma, folks were in a hizzy over the first sentence. The idea that Beyonce would think, never mind write, that she was ugly had folks scratching their head, hypothesizing all kinds of scenarios. Most bloggers thought this letter Read more…

November 20, 2012

Real Talk

Getting Through The Ins & Outs of Thanksgiving

Without fail Thanksgiving always brings on a certain amount of stress, confusion and anticipation in my life. The day after Halloween when snack candy packs are half-price and Wonder Woman costumes are going for $5, I know that the time has come to ask my mom the BIG question: “What are we doing for Thanksgiving this year?” I never have an inkling as to what the answer will be, but I am fully aware of Read more…

November 15, 2012

Real Talk

Victoria’s Secret’s Idea of Honoring Thanksgiving

So this was Victoria’s Secret’s idea of honoring Native Americans and celebrating Thanksgiving? Last week during VS’s annual fashion show, which reportedly cost a whopping $12 million and had an American holiday theme, producers thought it would be a fantastic idea to represent Thanksgiving by adorning model Karlie Kloss in turquoise jewelry, tassels and a floor-length feather headdress.

Never mind that the outfit is hideous, the idea of having a model wear such a major Read more…

November 6, 2012

Real Talk

My Election Anxiety

When I’m nervous I don’t bite my nails, I just pick-up my emery board and go totown. I start filing them down. Way down. Looking at my laptop now I see the filed sawdust-like remnants of what two days ago was a beautiful manicure. Now I’m typing with stubs. It’s Election Day and I’m stressed the crunk out!

My phone rings: “Hey Nicole!” It’s my gumbo-making, Texas born, pistol-handling godmother. “Yeah, I’m calling to tell Read more…

October 15, 2012

Real Talk, TV/Film

Ava Duvernay’s MIDDLE OF NOWHERE

I was thrilled when I read last night that MIDDLE OF NOWHERE was the #1 debut at the box office this weekend for indie films and, averaging $13,000 per screen, it had the biggest per-screen total for any film currently in theaters (even making twice the per screen figures of both Taken and Argo). This is major and no doubt a direct result of Ava Duvernay’s refusal to fail mixed with her massive grassroots Read more…