June 28, 2013

Real Talk

Lies & Highs:When Someone Tries To Defame You

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Blogging While Brown is more than an organization for Black bloggers. It’s a verb. A community formed by and within community. It’s an experience. Last weekend that experience came to NYC in the form of the 6th annual Blogging While Brown Conference. I had the privilege and pleasure of speaking at the Business of Blogging portion of the conference last Friday not knowing, by that very same afternoon, I would not only have to Read more...

June 19, 2013

Real Talk

Ain’t I A Woman? Badu, Serena & Hair Touching

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Saturday before last, I crossed the Brooklyn Bridge anticipating what I’d hoped would be an interstellar crossing into the future of ancient Black galaxies on the wings of Ms. Erykah Badu. What I love about Erykah is that I never know where or how far homegrrrl is going to transport me, but I know that she gets off beaming her peoples up.

After a rollercoaster ride of a morning and afternoon where a Black girl Read more...

May 17, 2013

Real Talk

Friends & Work: Competition & Handlin it!

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For the past few weeks I’ve been working on a project for a finance company and as such, (besides neglecting my blog) I’ve been getting reacquainted with the corporate world and the benefits, restrictions and protocol of the 9 – 5 7 business-casual life. For the first three days on the gig no one spoke to me. The VP of HR walked me in, made sure I got an ID, showed me to my desk Read more...

March 24, 2013

Real Talk, TV/Film

My Connection to “Olympus Has Fallen”

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I just saw the trailer for Olympus Has Fallen and see that it opened strong this, its opening weekend, coming in #2 at the box office making over $30 million. Is it just me or has there been a surge in the number of movies being made about the White House coming under attack since President Barack Obama has taken office? The new G.I. Joe movie revolves around the West Wing possibly being blown to Read more...

March 19, 2013

Real Talk

Ready To Die?

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“My shit is deep, deeper than my grave G;
I’m ready to die and nobody can save me.” -The Notorious B.I.G.

I think my dad had been in and out of the hospital and rehabilitation center for maybe eight or nine months when he gave me the letter. He would improve and then he would have a setback, which would usually place him on a vent machine cutting off his ability to speak. It was Read more...

February 27, 2013

Real Talk

Black Girls Deserve So Much More

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“I speak here as a woman of Color who is not bent upon destruction, but upon survival. No woman is responsible for altering the psyche of her oppressor, even when that psyche is embodied in another woman.” –Audre Lorde

“The way I feel about life? It’s a struggle. You have to stop getting mad and get smart.” – Mamie Lee Melton Nichols

Sunday night as the Oscar’s came to a close someone at The Onion Read more...

February 6, 2013

Real Talk

Is Your Half-Time Show As Good As Beyonce’s?

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On Sunday I was transfixed like pretty much everyone else on the planet by Beyoncé’s half-time show. I was already amped because my team had run a clinic on the 49ers in the first half and was screwing up spreads across the land. Now I was ready for King Bey to rock that mutha.

Hot off the heels of a lip synch controversy so huge it damn near made Milli Vanilli’s debacle seem like a Read more...

January 2, 2013

Real Talk

Making Peace with Mamacita & Welcoming 2013!

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2012 stunned me at times into bouts of tears and into moments of silence. 2012 also amazed, leaving me overjoyed and lightheaded from breathless laughter. This was a year of losing and gaining: friends, gigs, lovers, Spirit, ego, confidence, fear and fortitude. At my lowest I found strength and resilience. They were actually waiting for me. The more I peeled back the doubts and let go of the “Why Me’s,” the more I loved even Read more...

December 25, 2012

Real Talk

Happy Holidays!

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Yay, I got an iPhone this Christmas! Thanks mommy! And thank you all so much for reading and supporting theHotness. I hope you all have a wonderful time with family and friends this Christmas!  I wish you health, happiness and hotness!

xxo
nicole

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December 21, 2012

Real Talk

No Doomsday But New Heights & Gold Boots Too

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This is a picture of me climbing the High Temple of Lamanai (a former Mayan city that dates back to 950AD) in Belize a few years ago. While there I saw artifacts that substantiated the claim that Dec. 21, 2012 would be the last day of time. Initially it freaked me out. The end of life… of all life forever?! But then I spoke to some folks living there of Mayan ancestry– Los Mestizos as Read more...